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Book One
Meeting Friends Partners and Playmates Online
Advice for the Gay, Bi and Str8 M4M Man

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Chapter Two

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I am sure, and doubtless many of you have had negative experiences online. So… here are some very practical, "nuts and bolts" suggestions for those wanting to meet friends, partners or playmates on the net.

Have a presence on the net.

Join lots of groups, websites, dating sites, etc. But be aware of the pitfalls of each, and become savvy on the net.

Fill out all your profiles as honestly and completely as you can.

However, protect any information about yourself (or your family) which needs to remain private. Do not give out any information which would compromise your safety, privacy, peace of mind, or family (like your address, home phone, etc.) If you want to give out your phone, a cell phone is better to post, in terms of privacy, than your home phone.

Reply Directly!

If you join groups, or post or read messages in them, make sure you remember that if you reply directly (versus using a private email) all info in your reply gets posted to the group.

Don't do anything illegal on the net.

Don't communicate or meet with any one under age, of course. Don't join any groups or sites which contain anything illegal. Ruthlessly check out anything you join. (including rules of groups, terms of service on websites, pics that are posted, etc.)

A pic or pics on your profile gets you noticed.

It doesn't have to be a face pic or nude pic, if you are not comfortable with that. Complete info, interesting things which you don't mind divulging make the internet experience more fun and rewarding for all (but mind #2 and #3 above).

Use all the tools at your disposal to help you meet someone.
Then proceed in an open manner, but cautiously…

Web rings are a good source of sites, as are internet searches, gay search engines, links on groups, and messages on groups.Instant messenger is very useful and a good way to start to get to know someone. Chatting, webcamming, and e-mailing are helpful too. Gradually you will get to know someone utilizing these, but remember that folks are not always honest about themselves, their appearance, etc. Eventually you may want to meet in a safe place such as a restaurant or coffee house. After IMs, chats, camming and/or phone conversation(s), coffee or dinner, you will have a pretty good idea what makes this person you are interested in tick. Meeting someone directly from an IM or a chat room is pretty risky.

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Have in mind what are your limitations in terms of sexual activity, and what you expect in terms of behavior from the other person.

Have in mind how you will behave and stick to it. Have in mind when you can normally meet or chat. Be honest with your stats. Compose an email with all this in it. Attach to or insert in an email a current pic. Make this your stock email which you can email to a potential friend, playmate or partner.